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Donnerstag, April 27, 2006

everything's changing. everything's scary.

have u changed? are u scared?

i think everyone's pretty scared these days. some are scared coz everyone seems to be changing. some are scared coz nothing seems to be changing even while everyone's changing.

so how apt it is to come across this (in my exam readings... hahaha) . just thought that i shud share this list. and maybe we can all make our own lists, and in time to come, take it out again, laugh at how true, how silly u were, or cry at how true, how silly u were.

so get ready your pens and paper, it's a fairly l.o.n.g. list. (i typed it all out! so YOU better do it if you think you NEED TO!)

HR module once again, anyone? *

However, because identity is a lifelong process, significant positive changes can be achieved, even by those with a serious failure identity. An important principle is: Although we cannot change the past, what we want out of the future, along with our motivation to achieve what we want, is more important (than our past experiences) in determining what out future will be.

and blah blah blah...

To determine who you are, answer the following more specific questions:

1. What do you find satisfying/ enjoyable?

2. What are your religious beliefs?

3.What is your moral code?
One possible code is to attempt to fulfill your needs and do what you find enjoyable without depriving others of the ability to fulfill their needs

4. What are your sexual mores?
All of us should develop a consistent code that we are comfortable with and that helps us meet our needs without exploiting others.

5. What kind of career do you desire?
Ideally, you should seek work that is stimulating and satisfying, that you are skilled at, and that earns you enough money to support the lifestyle you desire.

6. What are of the country or the world do you want to live in?

7. Do you hope to marry?
If yes, to what type of person? When? How consistent are your answers here with your other life goals?

8. Do you want to have children?
If yes, how many? When? How consistent are your answers here with your other life goals?

9. What kind of image do you want to project to others?

10. What do you enjoy doing in your leisure time?

11. Do you desire to improve the quality of your life and that of others?
If yes, in what ways? How do you hope to chieve these goals?

12. What type of people do you enjoy being with? Why?

13. What kind of relationship do you want to have with your relatives, friends, neighbours, and people you meet for the first time?

14. What are your thoughts about death and dying?

15. What do you hope to be doing in 5 years time? in 10 years times? in 20 years?
What are your plans for achieving these goals in these time periods?

To have a farily well-developed sense of identity, you need to have answers to most, but not all, of these questions. Very few people are able to arrive at rational, fully consistent answers to all the questions.

Expect some changes in your life goals as time goes on. As you grow as a person, changes will occur in your beliefs, attitudes, and values and in the activities that you find enjoyable.

* actually this isn't HR. it's the social work module. but it's good! very good. everyone should take it!

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